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I Went to the Desert

This past month I went to the desert to join other professional women and one brave man from around the country in exploration.  There was no real agenda…simply a trust the group would uncover issues important to each of us individually, as well as a collective.

I went to the desert to reflect on my previous 18-month journey. It has been a journey to clarify my personal purpose as I enter this next phase of my life.  

I went to the desert to reflect and seek clarity.  Was I who and where I wanted to be with my life? Through my reflections, I found peace within myself and in my place in the world.

So, I invite you in 2019 to go to the desert – maybe not literally – but in your mind and in your heart.  Instead of setting a new year’s resolution, take the time to reflect. What have you learned?  What do you want to learn?  Where do you feel empty?  When do you feel whole?

Some things to help you get started…

  • You don’t always have to be in this world. Seek your place of calm.  You get to disconnect or step away from the chaos periodically to touch base with yourself and ask…

    • Where might I be feeling drained?  

    • What do I choose to do about it?

    • When and why am I feeling joy?

    • How do I create more opportunities for joy?

          Oh, and another benefit – creating this space for yourself helps to jettison
          tensions without dumping them on those around you. Just sayin’. 

  • Can you say, “I know who I want to be.”  We often lose ourselves when we carry the burdens of life.  Be at peace with who you are – at this moment.  This is your starting place.  It’s not a race.  It’s your life.  The questions you might want to ask yourself are….     

    • Can I say out loud who I want to be?  Go ahead – try it.  It doesn’t have to be perfect.  Be kind to yourself…it will come.

    • All in all, am I being – right now – who I want to be?

    • Does what I do help me be who I want to be?  Or is it causing heartache?

    • How do I get to live my values…every day

  • Surround yourself with people who don’t judge you and others.  You are beautiful – even more so because of your imperfections. You deserve to be with those who help you become all that is within you.  Invite those who are willing to listen and guide with respect and curiosity.  Because when we judge, we add to the confusion.  We become part of the problem.

  • And most importantly – lead everything you do and say with love. Hold tight to your love, because if you do, you are poised to understand with compassion and counter with kindness. You change the conversation.  You change the tensions.  You create space to discover. 

Wishing you a 2019 filled with love, laughter and kindness.



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